Tuesday, Week 9!
I can't believe it is already week 9. Even though we still have a long road ahead, I can still remember when Kev and I were anticipating February 1st and now it is about to be April. We both agree that the days move slow but the weeks fly by.
Tuesday started out with PT since Kev's company had Monday off. He said they ran half the perimeter which equates to approximately 3 or 4 miles. After a long weekend of rest and holiday food, the run was a little tiring for Kev. There is another big PT test coming up in a couple weeks to measure progress, so I think this weekend Kev may sign up for a gym membership so he can continue to train on weekends. We cancelled his membership when he went to the academy, but we are starting to think that working out more together on weekends may be beneficial even if that means paying for a monthly membership he won't be able to entirely utilize. Driving down to the reservoir for a run can be a little out of the way, and Kev is really leaning up at the academy so he wants access to weights as well (where staff officers aren't watching and assuming they need a tougher PT session if they are using the weight room).
Kev also heard that two more cadets quit yesterday. I believe that now brings the class down to 126 but I'll have to double check. One cadet had an injured leg and quit because he wasn't approved by medics to continue. The other cadet didn't think the academy/CHP was for him. Kev said this cadet sat in from of him in PT and they were just chatting that morning but he didn't mention anything about wanting to quit or Kev would have tried to talk him out of it. Kev said the story of why people quit spreads throughout the academy because someone tells their roommate and their roommate tells someone else, and down the ladder it goes. The story seemed a little personal and I have no idea how accurate it is, so I'll let it end with me but I wish those two the best in their future endeavors. Kev says that if you quit and later decide you would like to give it another shot, you have to go through the entire application process again from the beginning and can't just sign up to remediate with the next academy class like you can if you fail out. With all the other eager applicants, it is also unlikely that you will be selected again once they see in your file that you voluntarily left the academy. In that case, Kev said the Staff Office was upset that the cadet didn't come to them before deciding to quit and told the class to come speak with them if they start having any doubts. They really want to help cadets graduate and become officers if they can.
That was it for Tuesday. I took a late Yoga class last night that wasn't out until 9:30 PM and Kev was beat from the long morning run and shining brass that evening, so we didn't talk for too long so we could both get to bed. There are no tests for the rest of the week or next week though, so this weekend he will be able to relax and not have to study. He also said he thinks he did well on his VC test that he took in the morning, but he hasn't received his score yet. Fingers crossed!
I also sent him another little motivational letter in the mail yesterday, so I'm hoping it arrives before end of week! Usually it only takes a couple days. I found this really pretty stationary a while ago that came with teal envelopes, so Kev says he stops the mail cadet when he spots a teal envelope in his stack of white ones ;)
- Mimi
Wednesday, March 30, 2016
Tuesday, March 29, 2016
Thoughts - 1/4 Way Through
I didn't mention much about my emotions in the last post, so read on if you would like to know. However, sometimes I think it's better to feel out the process on your own. Like I've said before, every relationship and experience is different and ours may be entirely different from what you experience. In that case, I try to tell you more about what Kev experiences from day to day while being honest about good days and bad. I read a few of the blogs out there from time to time too and sometimes they tend to get to me. I'm always reading ahead trying to figure out what's to come. I worried too much before the academy started because of what I read, and I sometimes I worry too much now when I read about the FTO period and life as an officer. I'm always getting ahead of myself. Kev and I even had a 'code' ready for the academy incase we didn't have time to talk. A blue heart meant he wouldn't be able to talk at all that night, a red heart meant he may be able to call, and a yellow heart meant I should absolutely expect a call. Now that I look back, I think this was absolutely crazy. All that worrying and since the academy started there hasn't been a day that Kev and I haven't talked. Sometimes we have multiple calls a night, FaceTime, or talk for over an hour. I also work at an extremely fast paced job where the work is never done and I'm striving to achieve my professional goals as well. The worrying is not for lack of somewhere to focus my mind and efforts. I am extremely business and growth oriented but there is a steep dive into the CHP culture after that acceptance letter arrives. It is an entirely world. One of honor, reward, and also sacrifice.
My recent fears are about time. My time with Kev in person is now only on weekends. I also know that at some point after the academy, Kev will be assigned night shifts and with my 7 am - 7 pm or later schedule, there will be times when we pass each other by or don't see each other at all. That being a possibility, sometimes it is tough to see the light at the end of the tunnel after the academy. Kev and I had a pretty serious talk about this last Thursday. He said one thing that really lifted my spirits, "Moments with you are worth more than a lifetime with anyone else." Kev is right. Being a CHP Officer is his dream, and Kev is the love of my life. I would rather spend every passing moment of my life with him than any other person in this world. Every second I spend in his presence is the happiest moment of my life. Being a part of the CHP family will be an honor and I know we will have even more support in the future too. I can't wait to meet wives and girlfriends who understand the lifestyle and who I will be able to confide in rather than keeping my worries bottled up or coming to Kev about something I shouldn't even be worrying about in the first place. Ultimately, I suggest not doing your own research. If the blogs make you feel good, help give you a game plan of what to buy or academy tips and tricks, then read on. However, if they feed your worries and bring up concerns you wouldn't have considered on your own, then turn away. Always remember that this is your own journey and your own relationship. Kev says some cadets go to bed early and save their shoe shining and work for the weekends when they are home with their families while others stay up all night to get it done and free up their weekend. Some spend hours studying because they do great in PT and tactical exercises, but memorization is tough for them, so they don't have time to spend on the phone because they need to study longer instead. Others may simply have a more lackadaisical relationship and don't want to spend time on the phone so they act busier than they really are. Sadly, that may be the truth too. Everyone is different. A lot of the academy stress at home for the cadet's other half is likely stress related to the unknown and adapting to time on your own. We miss our companion, but in the end we have to remember how blessed we are to be chosen for this journey. Of all the candidates. our cadets were the ones selected. As hard as it may be to give up our time with them, it is important to look past the stigma placed on the academy and life after and to just appreciate the amazing stories and once in a lifetime opportunity. Sometimes I need to remind myself of this as well, but in the end I know how fortunate we are to be here and I want more than anything for us to get to graduation day on August 12th. As much as I miss my Kev, I would never want him to come home before then. Having a positive mindset will only make everything easier for us both. He is so happy and loves the academy! It is everything he ever wanted and he does everything possible to make me feel like the luckiest girl on Earth whether he is with me or not. Our weekends together are amazing, and we have only become closer through this. Since we aren't married, we thought maybe we would drift apart with the separation but it has been entirely the opposite. The constant support we show each other and the love we share each day has made us even closer - he is now more than ever my best friend! It's important to stop worrying and missing someone who really isn't gone. Let's ace some tests, shoot some guns, and drive fast cars! It sounds a heck of a lot better than sitting in front of a computer all day.
To my Kevvy:
Go get em' baby! I love you and I'm done getting ahead of myself. I'll always be your girl and I can't wait to start our lives together after the academy. You're my world, whether you're near or far. Moments with you are priceless.
Xo Your Mimi
My recent fears are about time. My time with Kev in person is now only on weekends. I also know that at some point after the academy, Kev will be assigned night shifts and with my 7 am - 7 pm or later schedule, there will be times when we pass each other by or don't see each other at all. That being a possibility, sometimes it is tough to see the light at the end of the tunnel after the academy. Kev and I had a pretty serious talk about this last Thursday. He said one thing that really lifted my spirits, "Moments with you are worth more than a lifetime with anyone else." Kev is right. Being a CHP Officer is his dream, and Kev is the love of my life. I would rather spend every passing moment of my life with him than any other person in this world. Every second I spend in his presence is the happiest moment of my life. Being a part of the CHP family will be an honor and I know we will have even more support in the future too. I can't wait to meet wives and girlfriends who understand the lifestyle and who I will be able to confide in rather than keeping my worries bottled up or coming to Kev about something I shouldn't even be worrying about in the first place. Ultimately, I suggest not doing your own research. If the blogs make you feel good, help give you a game plan of what to buy or academy tips and tricks, then read on. However, if they feed your worries and bring up concerns you wouldn't have considered on your own, then turn away. Always remember that this is your own journey and your own relationship. Kev says some cadets go to bed early and save their shoe shining and work for the weekends when they are home with their families while others stay up all night to get it done and free up their weekend. Some spend hours studying because they do great in PT and tactical exercises, but memorization is tough for them, so they don't have time to spend on the phone because they need to study longer instead. Others may simply have a more lackadaisical relationship and don't want to spend time on the phone so they act busier than they really are. Sadly, that may be the truth too. Everyone is different. A lot of the academy stress at home for the cadet's other half is likely stress related to the unknown and adapting to time on your own. We miss our companion, but in the end we have to remember how blessed we are to be chosen for this journey. Of all the candidates. our cadets were the ones selected. As hard as it may be to give up our time with them, it is important to look past the stigma placed on the academy and life after and to just appreciate the amazing stories and once in a lifetime opportunity. Sometimes I need to remind myself of this as well, but in the end I know how fortunate we are to be here and I want more than anything for us to get to graduation day on August 12th. As much as I miss my Kev, I would never want him to come home before then. Having a positive mindset will only make everything easier for us both. He is so happy and loves the academy! It is everything he ever wanted and he does everything possible to make me feel like the luckiest girl on Earth whether he is with me or not. Our weekends together are amazing, and we have only become closer through this. Since we aren't married, we thought maybe we would drift apart with the separation but it has been entirely the opposite. The constant support we show each other and the love we share each day has made us even closer - he is now more than ever my best friend! It's important to stop worrying and missing someone who really isn't gone. Let's ace some tests, shoot some guns, and drive fast cars! It sounds a heck of a lot better than sitting in front of a computer all day.
"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear." - Mark Twain
To my Kevvy:
Go get em' baby! I love you and I'm done getting ahead of myself. I'll always be your girl and I can't wait to start our lives together after the academy. You're my world, whether you're near or far. Moments with you are priceless.
Xo Your Mimi
Day 53-57 /194
Thursday - Monday - Our 4 Day Weekend!
Thursday was an exciting day for Kev! His company had some time at the range with the shotgun. They practiced getting out of the squad car and shooting a few rounds at a moving target. Kev said he was commended for his calmness and agility during the exercise but told to speed it up a bit. Compliments are rare at the academy, so it is always a confidence booster to get one. He seems to really enjoy the range and the range staff. He did say that one cadet accidentally put a shotgun bullet in his pocket and didn't realize it until later. Instead of returning it to the staff office, he returned it to the staff officers when they were having lunch. The staff officers aren't allowed to bother cadets when they are eating, so since they were interrupted during their lunch they apparently laid into him! Kev says they have immunity if they find a bullet on them and report it to the staff office with in 24 hrs. The trip to and from the staff office is when they are immune, but this guy missed the memo. Kev said it is the same kid we noticed at orientation whose mom kept asking a million questions on his behalf. Kev remembers him, so I wonder if the Sergeant does too. Word to the wise, don't have your parents ask questions for you during orientation. If you have a question, speak up. You'll likely earn the respect of your peers for asking, and likely everyone else is wanting to know the answer too ;) Another lesson learned, is what to do with your range shoes when you have only minutes to change out your shoes and run to range. Apparently some cadets had been leaving their uniform boots behind the chow hall during range and swapping them out after. However, it rained last week and Kev said their boots were soaked. Kev was already worried the staff officers would have some fun with the boots lined up back there, so he didn't do it. The boots were left untouched, but at least he ended up with dry boots because of his paranoia ;) I had given him an old pillow case and he just keeps that in his war bag now to wrap his boots in and just keeps them in his bag with him. It works for him so far.
Anyhow, our 4 day weekend started on Thursday night and it was perfection! It was absolutely what we both needed and today I feel so at peace with the academy and the time we have left there. The weekend acted as a refresh button for us both. I'm sure we will need another refresh at some point in the future, but for now I'm savoring this moment of bliss! On Saturday, Kev and I went to Monterey and Carmel. We explored Asilomar Beach but woke up a little late and missed the low tide. We will have to catch the tide pools another day soon. Then we went to Lovers Point for a bit, walked Cannery Row, had lunch at the Fish Hopper and walked down to Fisherman's Warf. Afterwards, we drove across to Carmel for a little time at another beach and to grab dinner before heading home. Sunday we had a lovely day with both of our families together and his new baby nephew who we are absolutely in love with. We used the rest of the weekend to enjoy each other's company and to study vehicle code for the big exam on Tuesday.
Heres to Week 9!!
-Mimi
Thursday was an exciting day for Kev! His company had some time at the range with the shotgun. They practiced getting out of the squad car and shooting a few rounds at a moving target. Kev said he was commended for his calmness and agility during the exercise but told to speed it up a bit. Compliments are rare at the academy, so it is always a confidence booster to get one. He seems to really enjoy the range and the range staff. He did say that one cadet accidentally put a shotgun bullet in his pocket and didn't realize it until later. Instead of returning it to the staff office, he returned it to the staff officers when they were having lunch. The staff officers aren't allowed to bother cadets when they are eating, so since they were interrupted during their lunch they apparently laid into him! Kev says they have immunity if they find a bullet on them and report it to the staff office with in 24 hrs. The trip to and from the staff office is when they are immune, but this guy missed the memo. Kev said it is the same kid we noticed at orientation whose mom kept asking a million questions on his behalf. Kev remembers him, so I wonder if the Sergeant does too. Word to the wise, don't have your parents ask questions for you during orientation. If you have a question, speak up. You'll likely earn the respect of your peers for asking, and likely everyone else is wanting to know the answer too ;) Another lesson learned, is what to do with your range shoes when you have only minutes to change out your shoes and run to range. Apparently some cadets had been leaving their uniform boots behind the chow hall during range and swapping them out after. However, it rained last week and Kev said their boots were soaked. Kev was already worried the staff officers would have some fun with the boots lined up back there, so he didn't do it. The boots were left untouched, but at least he ended up with dry boots because of his paranoia ;) I had given him an old pillow case and he just keeps that in his war bag now to wrap his boots in and just keeps them in his bag with him. It works for him so far.
Anyhow, our 4 day weekend started on Thursday night and it was perfection! It was absolutely what we both needed and today I feel so at peace with the academy and the time we have left there. The weekend acted as a refresh button for us both. I'm sure we will need another refresh at some point in the future, but for now I'm savoring this moment of bliss! On Saturday, Kev and I went to Monterey and Carmel. We explored Asilomar Beach but woke up a little late and missed the low tide. We will have to catch the tide pools another day soon. Then we went to Lovers Point for a bit, walked Cannery Row, had lunch at the Fish Hopper and walked down to Fisherman's Warf. Afterwards, we drove across to Carmel for a little time at another beach and to grab dinner before heading home. Sunday we had a lovely day with both of our families together and his new baby nephew who we are absolutely in love with. We used the rest of the weekend to enjoy each other's company and to study vehicle code for the big exam on Tuesday.Heres to Week 9!!
-Mimi
Thursday, March 24, 2016
Day 52/194
Wednesday, Week 8!
This Wednesday started out with PT which seems to be getting easier and easier for Kev. After PT, he took his systems and database test and said he thinks he did better than he expected. The study material was tough, but apparently it all came together when it came to the multiple choice. He was told the entire class passed, which is great!
I forgot to mention that Kev also received his brass name plate this week! This is pretty exciting because we have made it far enough for the CHP to spend a few bucks to engrave his name on a brass name tag and let him toss out his laminated paper name tag! The shine process is crazy though because the tag doesn't arrive "academy shiny" -> heat and melt down the plastic coating, shine brass as normal, then heat blue crayon to fill in the name crevices were the brass cleaner rubbed off the fill color. Kev said this is apparently an old military trick and all law enforcement know it too. I think his roommate who is a retread showed him how to do it.
He also said that the after lunch when they arrived back in class and were standing waiting for it to start, one cadet was chewed out by the Chief. Apparently he is a nervous smiler and the Chief noticed him smiling, called him to the front of class and asked him what was so funny and if he should go "10-8" on him, aka. for the Chief to clock in on his butt! The answer is Sir NO WAYYYY Sir! ;) The funny thing is that the book "Cadet Blues" talks about a nervous smiler too and how the female cadet gets chewed out for it all the time. So, if you come to the academy kick that habit! Kev never read the book but I always tell him when he tells me a story that is similar. Most of the stories and characters are spot on! I'm sure the staff officers notice the same type of cadets in each class too.
As for restriction - Kev was let out early around 7 pm and thankfully there was no memo due. He was able to go back to his room, wrap up his first draft of his autobiography and start working on more VC note cards while we talked on the phone.
This Wednesday started out with PT which seems to be getting easier and easier for Kev. After PT, he took his systems and database test and said he thinks he did better than he expected. The study material was tough, but apparently it all came together when it came to the multiple choice. He was told the entire class passed, which is great!
I forgot to mention that Kev also received his brass name plate this week! This is pretty exciting because we have made it far enough for the CHP to spend a few bucks to engrave his name on a brass name tag and let him toss out his laminated paper name tag! The shine process is crazy though because the tag doesn't arrive "academy shiny" -> heat and melt down the plastic coating, shine brass as normal, then heat blue crayon to fill in the name crevices were the brass cleaner rubbed off the fill color. Kev said this is apparently an old military trick and all law enforcement know it too. I think his roommate who is a retread showed him how to do it.
He also said that the after lunch when they arrived back in class and were standing waiting for it to start, one cadet was chewed out by the Chief. Apparently he is a nervous smiler and the Chief noticed him smiling, called him to the front of class and asked him what was so funny and if he should go "10-8" on him, aka. for the Chief to clock in on his butt! The answer is Sir NO WAYYYY Sir! ;) The funny thing is that the book "Cadet Blues" talks about a nervous smiler too and how the female cadet gets chewed out for it all the time. So, if you come to the academy kick that habit! Kev never read the book but I always tell him when he tells me a story that is similar. Most of the stories and characters are spot on! I'm sure the staff officers notice the same type of cadets in each class too.
As for restriction - Kev was let out early around 7 pm and thankfully there was no memo due. He was able to go back to his room, wrap up his first draft of his autobiography and start working on more VC note cards while we talked on the phone.
Thursday is the last day for us to get through and then we have a 4 day weekend together! We need it too, I have been a littleeee crazy this week. I have a good mindset about the academy, respect it and know wholeheartedly that there is no one else I want to spend my life with other than Kev. However, I can't help but need a little reassurance sometimes and spending time in his arms is the ultimate reassurance.
Have a wonderful Easter with your families and I'll write an update on our weekend next week! We will be enjoying our time off and studying for the big vehicle code test on Tuesday! :)
-Mimi
Have a wonderful Easter with your families and I'll write an update on our weekend next week! We will be enjoying our time off and studying for the big vehicle code test on Tuesday! :)
-Mimi
Wednesday, March 23, 2016
Day 51/194
Tuesday, Week 8:
Kev was back from the memorial service around 1:30 PM. He said the memorial was held in a large church and it was completely packed. The CHP, different police departments and fire fighters were all present. The cadets and the staff officers sat up high in the steeples and observed the memorial. Kev said the hardest part of the service was at the end when Officer Taylor's wife was presented with his badge. Kev said as she began to cry he teared up along with all the other cadets and staff officers. I can only imagine how she feels, and it breaks my heart. We wish the Taylor family closure and strength.
After the service Kev had his report writing class and was locked out of his room for a couple hours while the seniors used their quads for scenarios. The next few days will be a pretty packed schedule for him.
Here is the plan:
Tuesday night: Study for Wednesday morning systems and database test & work on autobiography due Thursday morning
Wednesday morning: PT immediately followed by systems and database test
Wednesday evening: Restriction (Kev did get a gig for his bed during room inspection) and during restriction he may have a memo. However, Thursday morning he also has to have his autobiography completed. Hopefully there is no memo!
Thursday morning: Turn in first draft of autobiography
Thursday evening: Make note cards for the huge vehicle code test next Tuesday morning. We have some note cards done but there are a lot more to make and this is supposed to be a tough test
Friday - Monday: FREEEEE! Cuddle, cuddle some more, Easter with the fam & study study study vehicle code
Tuesday: Vehicle code test
Out of everything Kev has to study, I actually like vehicle code the most. It is kind of fun to memorize with him and isn't one of the disturbing learning domains. As for me, I am looking forward to a long weekend with Kev and our first holiday combining our families together to celebrate! :)
-Mimi
Kev was back from the memorial service around 1:30 PM. He said the memorial was held in a large church and it was completely packed. The CHP, different police departments and fire fighters were all present. The cadets and the staff officers sat up high in the steeples and observed the memorial. Kev said the hardest part of the service was at the end when Officer Taylor's wife was presented with his badge. Kev said as she began to cry he teared up along with all the other cadets and staff officers. I can only imagine how she feels, and it breaks my heart. We wish the Taylor family closure and strength.
After the service Kev had his report writing class and was locked out of his room for a couple hours while the seniors used their quads for scenarios. The next few days will be a pretty packed schedule for him.
Here is the plan:
Tuesday night: Study for Wednesday morning systems and database test & work on autobiography due Thursday morning
Wednesday morning: PT immediately followed by systems and database test
Wednesday evening: Restriction (Kev did get a gig for his bed during room inspection) and during restriction he may have a memo. However, Thursday morning he also has to have his autobiography completed. Hopefully there is no memo!
Thursday morning: Turn in first draft of autobiography
Thursday evening: Make note cards for the huge vehicle code test next Tuesday morning. We have some note cards done but there are a lot more to make and this is supposed to be a tough test
Friday - Monday: FREEEEE! Cuddle, cuddle some more, Easter with the fam & study study study vehicle code
Tuesday: Vehicle code test
Out of everything Kev has to study, I actually like vehicle code the most. It is kind of fun to memorize with him and isn't one of the disturbing learning domains. As for me, I am looking forward to a long weekend with Kev and our first holiday combining our families together to celebrate! :)
-Mimi
Tuesday, March 22, 2016
Thoughts and Prayers Today #20154
Thoughts and prayers to Officer Taylor's family today during the memorial service in Roseville. Wishing them the strength to move forward in peace. #20154
Reading the news and seeing the pictures of the service today is truly touching. I feel so deeply for the family and friends that Officer Taylor left behind and send them all my best thoughts and wishes on such a difficult day. Kev and the cadets are there watching today. Wishing Kev strength too and praying for a long, safe career for all of CTC 1-16 and all other law enforcement officers. Seeing the pictures of everyone united in memory of a fallen peace officer is beautiful and inspiring. It extends beyond law enforcement family, into the community, to people who spent their lives with Taylor and to those who only had a passing moment with him. He was clearly a great man who left behind numerous memories of his acts of kindness and his mark on the world as a hero. I am so proud that Kev gets to be a part of such an admirable world and grateful that our lives will soon be surrounded by people who dedicate their lives to better the lives of others and to make the world a more peaceful place for us all. In light of the news in Brussels and the sullen remembrance of Officer Taylor this morning, it is beautiful to see love and unity so close to home today.
Photos of the memorial service
Photos of the memorial service
"In a gentle way, you can shake the world."
- Gandhi
- Gandhi
Day 50/194 - Start of week 8!
Monday, Week 8!
Week 8 means we are about a quarter of the way done with the academy! Okay, it sounds promising to say but when you look at April, May, June, July, and August on a calendar it isn't quite as pretty. One step at a time.. AND this weekend is our mini milestone - It is our 4 day weekend together!!! Thanks to unlimited PTO at work, I am taking Friday and Monday off to maximize time with Kev!
Monday started with PT for Kev, class, and then range. Kev said it started pouring while they were out at the range but they kept going. He said the range staff said you don't get to pick your weather on the job, or something to that extent... true. Even though Kev got a little wet, he said it was really fun and they finally got to shoot the shotgun too.
Of course, after all the stress over buying a new suit on Sunday some of the cadets did not have suits on Monday morning and therefore the attire for Officer Taylor's service on Tuesday is now slacks and a dress shirt, without a tie. Kind of disappointing that our Sunday together and time Kev could have spent studying was wasted because a select few individuals didn't follow through. Anyhow, Kev said this week's schedule has been shuffled around a bit to accommodate Tuesday's service and Good Friday that the cadet's have off. Tuesday the cadets will apparently be away from the academy all day. They were supposed to have a test on systems and databases after the service, but it has now been moved to Wednesday to allow for more study time. Thankfully, it is the only test all week! I was looking over Kev's shoulder on Sunday while he was studying and basically came to the conclusion that the entire academy is made up of acronyms ;)
Anyhow, Monday night was a little frustrating for us after hearing that they no longer needed a suit and after I dealt with Kev being a little feisty about it all Sunday. Kev also sent me a text when I was getting off work saying how "crazy" things were. Honestly, I am so tired of the word "crazy" :( When I got home, we had a long talk about the academy and how he needs to stay focused on what he is learning rather than stressing over timelines, change of plans, and long days. I told him that all careers deal with the pressure of timelines, expectations, and professional standards. The academy is no different from the real world in that sense. The pressure is only escalated because he was waiting for his acceptance while working a temporary road work job that he wasn't as passionate about and his future didn't depend on. That also left Kev with little professional experience dealing with long nights at work to meet a deadline or other set expectations. It is a learning experience in that sense too, so he needs to learn to manage stress and prioritize his worries. We all have to learn how to deal with pressure at work and limited time, we all succeed and we all fail but that's how you learn and do better the next time around. I told Kev about some times I have made mistakes at work and times I've succeeded too. The important part is what you take away from it, but ultimately you can't stress about every little thing - it's not heathy. My dad has had three heart attacks related to stress on the job, so I am absolutely an advocate for stress management and learning how to be successful while maintaining a positive and calm outlook under pressure. You just have to do your best and have faith that you are the kind of person who will get it done. Of course, like every argument it merged with other things on my mind lately that I don't always have time to talk to him about. I love Kev with all my heart, but I'll be honest that the academy does stress you both out if you let the long weeks get to you. I won't fluff this blog and say we don't have a small argument about it occasionally. We rarely do, but it happens and we know it's better to talk about it at the time rather than to keep it bottled up. I feel a little better after talking about it and I think Kev knows where I am coming from too and will likely not say the word "crazy" again ;) The academy is just a little consuming at times - it's a lot to squeeze into 6 months and a lot of sacrifice for us both. I miss him all week, I blog everyday, I read CHP books, I read other blogs and newsletters to stay informed and see what to expect in our future, and on weekends we savor our time together all while preparing for another week. The research and reading can be both positive and detrimental to my mindset. I wouldn't necessarily recommend it, but I understand the need for answers. It's important for us both to stay positive, calm, and focused in order to hold on tight to our dream of love ever after when this is all over. Remember that your journey and experience is your very own and has never been done before.
- Mimi
Week 8 means we are about a quarter of the way done with the academy! Okay, it sounds promising to say but when you look at April, May, June, July, and August on a calendar it isn't quite as pretty. One step at a time.. AND this weekend is our mini milestone - It is our 4 day weekend together!!! Thanks to unlimited PTO at work, I am taking Friday and Monday off to maximize time with Kev!
Monday started with PT for Kev, class, and then range. Kev said it started pouring while they were out at the range but they kept going. He said the range staff said you don't get to pick your weather on the job, or something to that extent... true. Even though Kev got a little wet, he said it was really fun and they finally got to shoot the shotgun too.
Of course, after all the stress over buying a new suit on Sunday some of the cadets did not have suits on Monday morning and therefore the attire for Officer Taylor's service on Tuesday is now slacks and a dress shirt, without a tie. Kind of disappointing that our Sunday together and time Kev could have spent studying was wasted because a select few individuals didn't follow through. Anyhow, Kev said this week's schedule has been shuffled around a bit to accommodate Tuesday's service and Good Friday that the cadet's have off. Tuesday the cadets will apparently be away from the academy all day. They were supposed to have a test on systems and databases after the service, but it has now been moved to Wednesday to allow for more study time. Thankfully, it is the only test all week! I was looking over Kev's shoulder on Sunday while he was studying and basically came to the conclusion that the entire academy is made up of acronyms ;)
Anyhow, Monday night was a little frustrating for us after hearing that they no longer needed a suit and after I dealt with Kev being a little feisty about it all Sunday. Kev also sent me a text when I was getting off work saying how "crazy" things were. Honestly, I am so tired of the word "crazy" :( When I got home, we had a long talk about the academy and how he needs to stay focused on what he is learning rather than stressing over timelines, change of plans, and long days. I told him that all careers deal with the pressure of timelines, expectations, and professional standards. The academy is no different from the real world in that sense. The pressure is only escalated because he was waiting for his acceptance while working a temporary road work job that he wasn't as passionate about and his future didn't depend on. That also left Kev with little professional experience dealing with long nights at work to meet a deadline or other set expectations. It is a learning experience in that sense too, so he needs to learn to manage stress and prioritize his worries. We all have to learn how to deal with pressure at work and limited time, we all succeed and we all fail but that's how you learn and do better the next time around. I told Kev about some times I have made mistakes at work and times I've succeeded too. The important part is what you take away from it, but ultimately you can't stress about every little thing - it's not heathy. My dad has had three heart attacks related to stress on the job, so I am absolutely an advocate for stress management and learning how to be successful while maintaining a positive and calm outlook under pressure. You just have to do your best and have faith that you are the kind of person who will get it done. Of course, like every argument it merged with other things on my mind lately that I don't always have time to talk to him about. I love Kev with all my heart, but I'll be honest that the academy does stress you both out if you let the long weeks get to you. I won't fluff this blog and say we don't have a small argument about it occasionally. We rarely do, but it happens and we know it's better to talk about it at the time rather than to keep it bottled up. I feel a little better after talking about it and I think Kev knows where I am coming from too and will likely not say the word "crazy" again ;) The academy is just a little consuming at times - it's a lot to squeeze into 6 months and a lot of sacrifice for us both. I miss him all week, I blog everyday, I read CHP books, I read other blogs and newsletters to stay informed and see what to expect in our future, and on weekends we savor our time together all while preparing for another week. The research and reading can be both positive and detrimental to my mindset. I wouldn't necessarily recommend it, but I understand the need for answers. It's important for us both to stay positive, calm, and focused in order to hold on tight to our dream of love ever after when this is all over. Remember that your journey and experience is your very own and has never been done before.
- Mimi
Monday, March 21, 2016
Day 47-49/194
Friday, Week 7!
Kev's Friday started out with PT followed by PMA. He learned a few new arrest methods with his handcuffs. After PMA, he went to range where the class started learning how to use a shot gun. Kev has shot a shotgun before, but says Friday was just an introduction to the gun and what the academy calls "dry work" - meaning no live rounds were used. The day ended with 4 hours of report writing class. Kev also said they signed waivers allowing them to use the weight room, but were advised that they shouldn't need it with their current training. Kev says it's unlikely they will lift or it will look like they aren't being pushed hard enough in PT. Good point!
Saturday & Sunday!
Our weekend was the perfect mix of romance and academy stress! On Saturday, we went back to the reservoir for a morning run and the weather was amazing. Kev's PT training is definitely paying off and he ended up motivating me to keep running towards the end. We came home, finished up his laundry, and dressed up for a date night! I wore a red dress and Kev wore a matching red shirt and tie. He looked so handsome! We went to Vic Stewarts and went all out! We split a salad, coconut shrimp appetizer, Kev had a T-bone and I had filet mignon. We were stuffed, but Kev can never resist dessert so we also had chocolate cake. The whole evening was perfect! After dinner, a friend of mine graduated nursing school so we made an appearance to congratulate her. We ended up staying out with the girls a little longer than we had planned. Our time together is limited and precious to us, and sometimes other people don't understand that. After a perfect dinner, I know Kev was a little disappointed that we didn't go home sooner and spend time together. I honestly was too. We talked after and know we need to start to re-align our priorities. We both have some great friends but sprinkled in are some who may not be the best fit for us anymore. A lot of my friends are still single and want to go out and party all night. Kev and I aren't really there anymore. We are in a serious relationship, kickstarting a career in law enforcement, and want to start a family and life together at some point in the near future. Going out all night just isn't how we want to spend our time. Figuring out how to relay this in an understandable way to friends is the hard part. I read once that it is called the 'exodus of your 20s' - some friends grow up with you and some you just hang on to the good memories and let them go. I think it may be time for the exodus. To start to realign our focus, we were sure to practice a few new arrest techniques when we got home :)
We had a few things on the 'to do' list for Sunday, but the biggest ordeal was shopping for a suit which we should not have saved until Sunday. This coming Tuesday, Kev and the cadets are going to attend the funeral of the fallen officer. In that case, Kev needs proper attire. We tried to find a matching jacket to pair with slacks he already had but in the end, bought an entirely new suit. It is an important day and of course Kev wants to look perfect, but it was one of those times where the weekend responsibilities of the academy weighed on him. It took a long time to pull together, and again Kev was worried about time getting away from us and needing to study. When everything was taken care of, he finally had time to sit down, study, and cuddle. Like I said, romance and stressss. I'll be thinking of Kev, the cadets, and the family of Officer Taylor on Tuesday. It is such a terrible loss and really hits home. Kev said the academy has been talking to them a lot about the loss to make sure everyone is coping with it well. As tough as the academy can be, they really try to be supportive.
-Mimi
Kev's Friday started out with PT followed by PMA. He learned a few new arrest methods with his handcuffs. After PMA, he went to range where the class started learning how to use a shot gun. Kev has shot a shotgun before, but says Friday was just an introduction to the gun and what the academy calls "dry work" - meaning no live rounds were used. The day ended with 4 hours of report writing class. Kev also said they signed waivers allowing them to use the weight room, but were advised that they shouldn't need it with their current training. Kev says it's unlikely they will lift or it will look like they aren't being pushed hard enough in PT. Good point!
Saturday & Sunday!
Our weekend was the perfect mix of romance and academy stress! On Saturday, we went back to the reservoir for a morning run and the weather was amazing. Kev's PT training is definitely paying off and he ended up motivating me to keep running towards the end. We came home, finished up his laundry, and dressed up for a date night! I wore a red dress and Kev wore a matching red shirt and tie. He looked so handsome! We went to Vic Stewarts and went all out! We split a salad, coconut shrimp appetizer, Kev had a T-bone and I had filet mignon. We were stuffed, but Kev can never resist dessert so we also had chocolate cake. The whole evening was perfect! After dinner, a friend of mine graduated nursing school so we made an appearance to congratulate her. We ended up staying out with the girls a little longer than we had planned. Our time together is limited and precious to us, and sometimes other people don't understand that. After a perfect dinner, I know Kev was a little disappointed that we didn't go home sooner and spend time together. I honestly was too. We talked after and know we need to start to re-align our priorities. We both have some great friends but sprinkled in are some who may not be the best fit for us anymore. A lot of my friends are still single and want to go out and party all night. Kev and I aren't really there anymore. We are in a serious relationship, kickstarting a career in law enforcement, and want to start a family and life together at some point in the near future. Going out all night just isn't how we want to spend our time. Figuring out how to relay this in an understandable way to friends is the hard part. I read once that it is called the 'exodus of your 20s' - some friends grow up with you and some you just hang on to the good memories and let them go. I think it may be time for the exodus. To start to realign our focus, we were sure to practice a few new arrest techniques when we got home :)
We had a few things on the 'to do' list for Sunday, but the biggest ordeal was shopping for a suit which we should not have saved until Sunday. This coming Tuesday, Kev and the cadets are going to attend the funeral of the fallen officer. In that case, Kev needs proper attire. We tried to find a matching jacket to pair with slacks he already had but in the end, bought an entirely new suit. It is an important day and of course Kev wants to look perfect, but it was one of those times where the weekend responsibilities of the academy weighed on him. It took a long time to pull together, and again Kev was worried about time getting away from us and needing to study. When everything was taken care of, he finally had time to sit down, study, and cuddle. Like I said, romance and stressss. I'll be thinking of Kev, the cadets, and the family of Officer Taylor on Tuesday. It is such a terrible loss and really hits home. Kev said the academy has been talking to them a lot about the loss to make sure everyone is coping with it well. As tough as the academy can be, they really try to be supportive.
-Mimi
Friday, March 18, 2016
Day 46/194
Thursday, Week 7!
Thursday was pretty quiet for Kev. He had more of the usual - PMA, arrest techniques, some classroom time, and more time at the range. Kev is pretty familiar with shooting and has been hunting before too, but it sounds like he is still learning a lot and has a few habits he is working on breaking too. Seems time at the range is a learning experience for both people with gun experience and without.
Kev also undated me that the 1/3 of the class that failed the use of force test where they needed to get 100% all passed when they took it again. I believe there may be a handful that are still scheduled to retake it. He also said a few guys didn't pass the surprise baton test, but they get the opportunity to retest as well. Thankfully, it didn't sound like that was a make or break test at this time.
Anyhow, it was an easier day and we are excited for Friday! The expectations of the academy are getting tougher for Kev but we are doing just fine. I read a few blogs before Kev started the academy and became really worried that his time there would break us. I quickly realized that your relationship is your own and all that you chose to make of it. That goes for you and your boyfriend/husband. We both make the effort, whether it is Kev sending me flowers when he is away and giving me back rubs when he is home, or me sending letters, helping him with laundry and buzzing his hair. We do what we can to show each other we care in the little time we have together right now. Kev always finds time for me in his busy schedule and we have talked everyday since he started. I always get texts and calls. Sometimes we talk for an hour, multiple times a night, or even FaceTime - basically just staring at each other's faces! If he is really busy, of course he will let me know but I wouldn't read too much into the relationships in some of the other blogs. Your relationship is unique and your very own. There is absolutely time to talk to each other. We talk all the time and Kev still has time to study and get's A's on every test so far. Yes, I absolutely miss him at home and sometimes it can be hard. However, he is happy, chasing his dream, intricately reforming himself, and having a blast! The stories you get to hear are awesome too, and this is just the beginning. The whole experience is new, exciting, and only 6 months of your life for a lifetime of amazing rewards. Make the most of it!
- Mimi
Thursday was pretty quiet for Kev. He had more of the usual - PMA, arrest techniques, some classroom time, and more time at the range. Kev is pretty familiar with shooting and has been hunting before too, but it sounds like he is still learning a lot and has a few habits he is working on breaking too. Seems time at the range is a learning experience for both people with gun experience and without.
Kev also undated me that the 1/3 of the class that failed the use of force test where they needed to get 100% all passed when they took it again. I believe there may be a handful that are still scheduled to retake it. He also said a few guys didn't pass the surprise baton test, but they get the opportunity to retest as well. Thankfully, it didn't sound like that was a make or break test at this time.
Anyhow, it was an easier day and we are excited for Friday! The expectations of the academy are getting tougher for Kev but we are doing just fine. I read a few blogs before Kev started the academy and became really worried that his time there would break us. I quickly realized that your relationship is your own and all that you chose to make of it. That goes for you and your boyfriend/husband. We both make the effort, whether it is Kev sending me flowers when he is away and giving me back rubs when he is home, or me sending letters, helping him with laundry and buzzing his hair. We do what we can to show each other we care in the little time we have together right now. Kev always finds time for me in his busy schedule and we have talked everyday since he started. I always get texts and calls. Sometimes we talk for an hour, multiple times a night, or even FaceTime - basically just staring at each other's faces! If he is really busy, of course he will let me know but I wouldn't read too much into the relationships in some of the other blogs. Your relationship is unique and your very own. There is absolutely time to talk to each other. We talk all the time and Kev still has time to study and get's A's on every test so far. Yes, I absolutely miss him at home and sometimes it can be hard. However, he is happy, chasing his dream, intricately reforming himself, and having a blast! The stories you get to hear are awesome too, and this is just the beginning. The whole experience is new, exciting, and only 6 months of your life for a lifetime of amazing rewards. Make the most of it!
- Mimi
Thursday, March 17, 2016
Day 45/194
Wednesday, Week7!
We are halfway through the week! On Tuesday, I took a day off work to go snowboarding in Tahoe after that long weekend of snow fall. I drove up just for the day with a girlfriend, so it was a nice break in the week. I'm missing Kev so much this week though. The academy turned out to not be as bad as I expected though. I talk to Kev all the time and Friday's are starting to come fast! As much as I miss him, I am more comfortable with my own time again which really helps.
Wednesday started with a new kind of PT for Kev, the swimming pool! Instead of running after squats and pushups, the cadets changed into their swim outfits (black trunks for the guys, not sure about the ladies) and headed to the indoor pool. Kev said they lined up at the pool and one after another dove in, swam to the end, got out and walked back to the line. They did maybe 6-7 laps for about 20 minutes. Kev said he really enjoyed it because it was a nice change and was easier on his joints compared to running around on concrete. After laps, they lined up to jump from the tower. In the book, "Cadet Blues", Krider talks about how intimidating the tower was for some cadets. I asked Kev if he noticed the same with his class and he confirmed that a few guys were a little psyched out. We joked for a bit on the phone about what rock these guys have been living under before the academy. They want to live a "life of danger" but have never cliff jumped, skydived, or even jumped off a high dive! Anyhow, they lined up, climbed to the top of the tower, requested permission to jump so the officer could confirm the water was clear, and yelled "CHP" as they jumped off feet first. Kev said it was a blast, I think he really liked his pool day! ;)
After the pool they changed and went to class, followed by PMA and handcuffing techniques. Kev seems to enjoy PMA. I swear he likes the academy more than he is supposed to! After PMA, Kev had his first mid-term. He thinks he did pretty well and we are eager to hear what grade he received!
Lastly, he had a report writing class. Kev said the point of the class is to instill attention to detail in you for incident report writing. He said to begin class, the officer walked into the classroom and began making a peanut butter sandwich. After he was through, he asked the class to write about what he did. Kev said some of the retreads had really detailed descriptions and others were too vague. The officers proved how important detail is by remaking sandwiches based on the description of some cadet's reports. Kev said some were so vague, that the officer stuck his hand in the peanut butter and spread it on the bread. Kev also said that out of all of the classroom instruction at the academy, he loved this way of teaching and really thought it drove their point home. He saw why attention to detail is important and how a report can be misunderstood if it is lacking detail.
In the life of the seniors, they are working on scenarios and are set to graduate in April, however they still do not have senior status! I wonder when/if they will ever be granted the status.
I can't wait until Kev is that close to graduation! Until then, one day at a time.
- Mimi
We are halfway through the week! On Tuesday, I took a day off work to go snowboarding in Tahoe after that long weekend of snow fall. I drove up just for the day with a girlfriend, so it was a nice break in the week. I'm missing Kev so much this week though. The academy turned out to not be as bad as I expected though. I talk to Kev all the time and Friday's are starting to come fast! As much as I miss him, I am more comfortable with my own time again which really helps.
Wednesday started with a new kind of PT for Kev, the swimming pool! Instead of running after squats and pushups, the cadets changed into their swim outfits (black trunks for the guys, not sure about the ladies) and headed to the indoor pool. Kev said they lined up at the pool and one after another dove in, swam to the end, got out and walked back to the line. They did maybe 6-7 laps for about 20 minutes. Kev said he really enjoyed it because it was a nice change and was easier on his joints compared to running around on concrete. After laps, they lined up to jump from the tower. In the book, "Cadet Blues", Krider talks about how intimidating the tower was for some cadets. I asked Kev if he noticed the same with his class and he confirmed that a few guys were a little psyched out. We joked for a bit on the phone about what rock these guys have been living under before the academy. They want to live a "life of danger" but have never cliff jumped, skydived, or even jumped off a high dive! Anyhow, they lined up, climbed to the top of the tower, requested permission to jump so the officer could confirm the water was clear, and yelled "CHP" as they jumped off feet first. Kev said it was a blast, I think he really liked his pool day! ;)
After the pool they changed and went to class, followed by PMA and handcuffing techniques. Kev seems to enjoy PMA. I swear he likes the academy more than he is supposed to! After PMA, Kev had his first mid-term. He thinks he did pretty well and we are eager to hear what grade he received!
Lastly, he had a report writing class. Kev said the point of the class is to instill attention to detail in you for incident report writing. He said to begin class, the officer walked into the classroom and began making a peanut butter sandwich. After he was through, he asked the class to write about what he did. Kev said some of the retreads had really detailed descriptions and others were too vague. The officers proved how important detail is by remaking sandwiches based on the description of some cadet's reports. Kev said some were so vague, that the officer stuck his hand in the peanut butter and spread it on the bread. Kev also said that out of all of the classroom instruction at the academy, he loved this way of teaching and really thought it drove their point home. He saw why attention to detail is important and how a report can be misunderstood if it is lacking detail.
In the life of the seniors, they are working on scenarios and are set to graduate in April, however they still do not have senior status! I wonder when/if they will ever be granted the status.
I can't wait until Kev is that close to graduation! Until then, one day at a time.
- Mimi
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